Handfasting Ceremony in Weddings

Handfasting Ceremony in Weddings

The Significant History Behind Handfasting

Historically, in ancient Celtic culture, this ceremony was an integral part of a marriage.  It  symbolized not only the union of two people but also the joining of extended families. Marriage was viewed as a sacred and enduring bond. The act of binding hands was a visual representation of this lifelong connection.

Over time, what was once a tradition rooted deeply in Celtic heritage. It has transcended cultural boundaries and has been embraced in weddings across the world.

The Meaning Behind Ribbon or Cord Colors

The ribbons or cords used in a handfasting ceremony are not just decorative. They often hold symbolic meaning. Couples may choose colors that resonate with their personal values, relationship. Alternatively  they simply reflect their aesthetic preferences.

Here are the traditional meanings of some ribbon colors:

• Red: Passion and love
• Blue: Trust and loyalty
• Yellow: Joy and happiness
• Green: Growth and fertility

Although these meanings are traditional, today’s couples are encouraged to choose colors that feel significant to them. It’s also an option to use multiple ribbons. Each will hold its own special meaning, adding more layers of connection and symbolism to the ritual.

Adding Personal Touches to Your Handfasting Ceremony

One of the beautiful aspects of the handfasting ceremony is its flexibility . Modern couples can weave their own story into this ancient tradition. Here are a few ideas to make the ritual truly yours:

• Choose Your Own Colors: Use ribbons or cords in your favorite colors or ones that match your wedding theme.
• Add Ribbons with Meaningful Details: Include charms, engravings, or small symbolic objects that reflect your shared life or interests.
• Invite Family Members to Participate: Make the ceremony even more special by involving family or close friends in tying the knot. This can signify their support and blessings for your union.
• Multiple Ribbons for a Single Knot: Opt for multiple ribbons or cords and combine their meanings into one strong knot and symbolize the strength of your relationship.

Incorporating Handfasting Into Your Wedding

Handfasting can be done as a stand-alone ceremony or easily included as part of a larger wedding. For many, it offers a poignant moment to pause and reflect on the commitment being made. It’s versatile enough to be incorporated with vows, ring exchanges, or other wedding traditions.

Before the ceremony, discuss the symbolism and details with your celebrant to ensure it aligns with your vision for your big day. Consider weaving in a few words to explain the tradition to your guests, especially if it’s new to them.

Final Thoughts

Whether you’re honoring Celtic heritage,  or simply inspired by the symbolism of intertwining lives, a handfasting ceremony is a heartfelt and memorable addition to any wedding.

Take the time to make it personal and meaningful, whether that means choosing unique ribbons, involving loved ones, or adding small mementos. By putting your own creative spin on this ancient ritual, you ensure it will be as unique as your love story.

Will the threads of your love story include a knot of unity? If so, make it a vivid and unforgettable moment in your celebration!

Check out this simple step by step guide about how to tie a handfasting cord.

Handfasting Ceremony in Weddings Example 1

Discuss handfasting with your celebrant.  They are the right person to help tailor this inclusion in your ceremony.

Marriage Celebrant… “Dario and Robyn have chosen to incorporate a traditional handfasting into their ceremony today. This is a symbolic binding of the hands that inspired the terms “Bonds of Holy Matrimony” and to “Tie the knot”. Throughout history in many different ways and in many different parts of the world, the hands of the bride and groom were bound as a sign of their commitment to one another. In many times rings were only for the very rich, but love knows no such bound. The cords are not permanent but perishable as a reminder that all things of the material world eventually return to the earth, unlike the bond and the connection that is love which is eternal.

Please join your right hands.”(Dario and Robyn hold hands, the ribbon is laid over the hands and tied into a knot underneath.)

Marriage Celebrant… “This cord represents the marital bond. It is strong enough to hold you together during times of struggle yet flexible enough to allow for individuality and personal growth. As your hands are now bound together, so shall your lives be bound as one. May you enjoy a lifetime of love and peace, happiness and prosperity.”
(hands to stay tied for the asking and the vows)